Stuvac. A study vacation. That’s what I’ve been on. Happy to sleep in most mornings. Reading for uni and working on assignments in the gaps of each day - the gaps are between appointments for children’s health. And getting there! After beginning the holiday, and the trimester, feeling like it was all impossible, I’m travelling ok. I get it. I know what to do and I’m doing it.
the meantime, the children. They’ve spent lots of days in their pyjamas
and watched lots of tv. We’d had slow days, quiet days, hanging out at
‘Let them be bored’, I say. I’m a fan of children being bored, for lots of reasons.
people were bored when they were children. Not just bored but forced
into boredom by illness. Joni Mitchell and Neil Young suffered polio
when they were children. This meant a long time lying in bed. For Joni,
she said it forged in her the determination to be an artist. It’s when
she started singing. Tom Jones was diagnosed with tuberculosis at age
12. He spent two years recovering, listening to the radio and drawing.
Patti Smith had a childhood full of illness: bronchitis, tuberculosis,
scarlet fever, three different kinds of measles. That’s a lot of time in
bed, doing, not much. Now, I’m not suggesting that being sick has a
major upside. I’m just saying that boredom turns people on to creative
Boredom doesn’t disappear when you grow up, so you’d better get used to it.
more you put into something, the more you get out of it. If you are
bored, you need to find a way to engage more with what you’re doing.
Whether it’s cooking. cleaning, studying, work or relationships. And
that’s about mental discipline, making meaningful connections and
creativity. The sooner children learn that the better.
my Masters supervisor used to say to me, and I say to my children,
after boredom comes discovery. Boredom is part of the process, and gives
you a kick up the bum to do something really interesting.
during the holidays the children have been reading, playing in the
backyard, playing board games and card games, singing and dancing.
They’ve been having a fine holiday while their mother studies.