Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Mum thinks it is ok to break the law, because she's a mum

Jacinta Tynan, who wrote a piece when her first baby was six months old, saying how motherhood was easy and why do people complain about how hard it is, has now written a piece saying she considers herself exempt from the road rules because she has two children. Reading this, I thought she was being ironic, or sarcastic, but no. She genuinely believes she has the right to break the law, because she has kids.

'To the parking inspector who tried to slap a ticket on me the other day: an apology. I was in a clearly marked No Stopping zone and you didn't deserve my teary tirade. You had every right to threaten to call the police and to call for backup from not one but two supervisors. It's just that I had two children in the back of the car and I thought that bought me dispensation.

Ever since I became a mother, I have learnt to cut corners, ignoring not just traffic signs but all manner of procedures designed to make life easier because in my state they no longer do, and I brazenly now consider myself exempt. Surely No Stopping means unless you have babies on board and are attempting to drop off stuff at St Vincent de Paul, as I was. Surely parking limits don't apply when ferrying children to the park. Why can't I jump to the front of the Jetstar check-in when I have a baby in my Björn? Don't mums deserve to bypass the queue at Woolies?'

...At least that nice parking inspector understood. Much to my surprise, I was issued with a warning for that blatant misdemeanour. I won't park there again, I promise. But what a treat to have my circumstances taken into account.

I'm thinking she would be a parent who feels she has the right to break the road rules when dropping off or picking up her kids at daycare or school,even though they would endanger other people.

For the last six years I've been tearing my hair out most mornings and afternoons seeing parents break the road rules around the school. People who park on the crossing, or do a u turn on the crossing, or park in the No Stopping zones by the crossings. Drivers pulling into the school driveways while children are walking into or out of the school gates. The most dangerous part of our walk to and from school is using the school crossings. For six years I've sat on the P&C and we've regularly talked about ways to convince parents it is a good idea to follow the road rules around the school. We've talked about walking to school. Leaving five minutes earlier. Road safety. Explaining the reasons for the road rules. Setting a good example. Being seen by the members of the community as someone who obeys the law. We've called in the police and the parking police. When they are present on one side of the school, people just break the law on the other side of the school. We've collected the rego numbers of the cars whose drivers break the law, and phoned them through to the police. I keep suggesting that we ask for tax audits for all the parents who continually break the law around the school, but the Principal says no.

The comments on the piece are mostly about the parking spots for parents in shopping centres, and the usual parents feel entitled/what about childfree adults who pick up the pieces to and fro.

I feel like I felt when Fifi Box announced on The Panel that she doesn't vote - she sends her mother to vote for her. Shame on her, when so many women have fought for women's rights. Jacinta Tynan: you are giving mothers a bad name. Breaking the law is breaking the law. You have not the right to break any law that may seem inconvenient to you. I hope when your children are at school that you don't endanger other children because you feel your time is more precious than other people's lives. You should have been issued with a parking ticket.



Jenny said...

O yeah - I found that such a strange article. Would she have been as keen to cut mums in a similar situation to her so much slack pre having kids? Yes, it's hard work and lots of situations while managing kids are a shocker, but like lots of people who find day to day life hard (the elderly, physically disabled) you just learn to get on with it. Very odd.

sister outlaws said...

Yeah - if it's so easy to care for kids, why would you expect special dispensation? What other responsibilities does she ignore, using motherhood as an excuse? Found this really strange too!